I've been living under the 'shy good girl' rock my whole life. Thank you for the reminder that it's just a label. The journey for me has been about reclaiming the part of myself that exists purely, without any preconceived ideas or judgement. And remembering and returning to that part of myself again and again. Thank you for sharing, as always
Relearning this lesson right now... every time I think I'm past this one, it rears back up... people pleasing is such a hard habit to quit! I'm learning to embrace, rather than try to shrink, my passionate, "too emotional" self. It's easy to say, "I'm not for everyone", but losing people is hard. I have to remember that keeping them by staying small doesn't serve either of us in the long run.
Throughout my life I've been told I'm too loud, selfish, too much, too emotional, too opinionated, not holy enough....I could go on and on. It's only in the last 3 ish years that I've really come to understand that this is much more about the people saying the things that it ever was about me. When you don't show up the way someone wants you to or expects you to, or you change the way you start showing up, it's easier to call you a name or put a label on you than it is for them to tap into why how you're showing up bothers them so much. It's been a journey of not living out of others expectations of me, but instead get comfortable defining and living out of my own. It's a journey, and it's hard, and I'm still in process with it.
I've been living under the 'shy good girl' rock my whole life. Thank you for the reminder that it's just a label. The journey for me has been about reclaiming the part of myself that exists purely, without any preconceived ideas or judgement. And remembering and returning to that part of myself again and again. Thank you for sharing, as always
Relearning this lesson right now... every time I think I'm past this one, it rears back up... people pleasing is such a hard habit to quit! I'm learning to embrace, rather than try to shrink, my passionate, "too emotional" self. It's easy to say, "I'm not for everyone", but losing people is hard. I have to remember that keeping them by staying small doesn't serve either of us in the long run.
Everything you wrote! Thank you 🙌🏽🔥❤️
Throughout my life I've been told I'm too loud, selfish, too much, too emotional, too opinionated, not holy enough....I could go on and on. It's only in the last 3 ish years that I've really come to understand that this is much more about the people saying the things that it ever was about me. When you don't show up the way someone wants you to or expects you to, or you change the way you start showing up, it's easier to call you a name or put a label on you than it is for them to tap into why how you're showing up bothers them so much. It's been a journey of not living out of others expectations of me, but instead get comfortable defining and living out of my own. It's a journey, and it's hard, and I'm still in process with it.