I have SO MANY THOUGHTS I need to process, but I’m especially struck by how triggered I was by the whole thing. I want to “anonymously” send this part from your piece to a WHOLE LOT of folks:
“But you know what I hope for white people who watched and were horrified? I hope they asked the question, ‘How are the Black women in my life having similar experiences?’ Or ‘In what ways am I acting like the firm’?” But I can’t...because the Weaponized Tears would emerge...
My husband doesn't hold the title of a prince, but he is white. Meghan's experiences made me feel some kind of way because guess what, I softened my voice too. Until the summer of 2020 when the grandparents didn't feel the need to check in on their brown grandchildren. As we marched for black lives matter and posted our pics on Facebook, opinions from his side of the family began to bubble to the surface. We have yet to experience the multiracial-diversity-celebration-era. Our kids are still too black for one side too white for the other. And don't get me started on white women's tears. For me, Meghan definitely nailed the experiences of black girls, interracial marriage and biracial children.
The British press is unrelenting and racist Megan was the perfect cover for what we know to be true Britain is just as racist as any other society. I had to stop reading the things they write about her as a black woman it was too painful and as a counsellor who works with trauma I was seeing other black women in practice dealing with the trauma of racism. Whatever people’s opinion on her privilege or wealth one thing I know for sure and that is trauma is trauma it impacts you the same way whether rich or poor.
Yes to all of this, Austin. My first thought when she told the story about the flower girl dresses was “well, that’s every wedding ever” and then “damn white women’s fake tears strike again!”
Thank you for sharing with us. Hope you take time for yourself, too ❤️
Okay!!! Yass! Sidebar Would you know, that on Monday, in the Westminster Cathedral the royal family celebrated Commonwealth Day. That is the day when we
, the colonists are patronised by white people - and yes I'm white but the patronising of "their" "services" to the "dark" colonies. The people who were happily called g####w###g# by Prince Philip in the 50's & 60's & 70's etc. Who come to "outback" Australia to sit with first nations people but NEVER EVER say sorry for dispersion of the land called Terra Nullius aka empty land. And yes Prince Phillip gets heart surgery at 99yrs while black commonwealth people disproportionately die of COVID. I "read" the interview in live reporting as I don't have a TV. I understand your reaction and sit with it. I read the interview with no surprise as the once "glorious" commonwealth sinks slowly into the sea occasionally patronised by the useless supremely wealthy racist royals. Hugs from Australia.
Nothing was really that surprising, but what was different was how the need to protect "the firm" and the traditions no matter what harm is caused to others was spelled out so clearly. Harry's comment about the royals being trapped got me to thinking. It's easy to judge them, but I've had to ask myself the question - would I have the courage like Harry to stand up against the "norm" and systems that have benefitted me especially if there was a significant consequence to me? I am not a rebel by nature and as a life-long people pleaser, my emotional-programming is to want people to like me. I also find that don't always know how to express myself and have difficult conversations in the moment. So - praying for clarity and courage when the time presents itself.
1st having seen his mom go through this Harry should have known better, the House of Windsor, with a 1000 years of tradition, is unbending and unchanging. Adapt or die.
Secondly the British press is unrelentingly cruel and mean, they were the very definition of click bait. Absolutely agree that Meghan was treated differently than Kate, but less to do with racism and much more to do with appealing to people's more baser instincts. Kate is very white, very pretty and people, especially women, love the romantic side of the marriage. Meghan, biracial and especially American, was the perfect foil, nothing personal they say. Robot Murdoch has perfected the formula, why do you think Fox news is so profitable. Well that and the fact it’s the only Conservative view on TV, but I digress.
In other words while racism did play a role, it was only a small role.
I have SO MANY THOUGHTS I need to process, but I’m especially struck by how triggered I was by the whole thing. I want to “anonymously” send this part from your piece to a WHOLE LOT of folks:
“But you know what I hope for white people who watched and were horrified? I hope they asked the question, ‘How are the Black women in my life having similar experiences?’ Or ‘In what ways am I acting like the firm’?” But I can’t...because the Weaponized Tears would emerge...
My husband doesn't hold the title of a prince, but he is white. Meghan's experiences made me feel some kind of way because guess what, I softened my voice too. Until the summer of 2020 when the grandparents didn't feel the need to check in on their brown grandchildren. As we marched for black lives matter and posted our pics on Facebook, opinions from his side of the family began to bubble to the surface. We have yet to experience the multiracial-diversity-celebration-era. Our kids are still too black for one side too white for the other. And don't get me started on white women's tears. For me, Meghan definitely nailed the experiences of black girls, interracial marriage and biracial children.
The British press is unrelenting and racist Megan was the perfect cover for what we know to be true Britain is just as racist as any other society. I had to stop reading the things they write about her as a black woman it was too painful and as a counsellor who works with trauma I was seeing other black women in practice dealing with the trauma of racism. Whatever people’s opinion on her privilege or wealth one thing I know for sure and that is trauma is trauma it impacts you the same way whether rich or poor.
Yes to all of this, Austin. My first thought when she told the story about the flower girl dresses was “well, that’s every wedding ever” and then “damn white women’s fake tears strike again!”
Thank you for sharing with us. Hope you take time for yourself, too ❤️
Okay!!! Yass! Sidebar Would you know, that on Monday, in the Westminster Cathedral the royal family celebrated Commonwealth Day. That is the day when we
, the colonists are patronised by white people - and yes I'm white but the patronising of "their" "services" to the "dark" colonies. The people who were happily called g####w###g# by Prince Philip in the 50's & 60's & 70's etc. Who come to "outback" Australia to sit with first nations people but NEVER EVER say sorry for dispersion of the land called Terra Nullius aka empty land. And yes Prince Phillip gets heart surgery at 99yrs while black commonwealth people disproportionately die of COVID. I "read" the interview in live reporting as I don't have a TV. I understand your reaction and sit with it. I read the interview with no surprise as the once "glorious" commonwealth sinks slowly into the sea occasionally patronised by the useless supremely wealthy racist royals. Hugs from Australia.
Nothing was really that surprising, but what was different was how the need to protect "the firm" and the traditions no matter what harm is caused to others was spelled out so clearly. Harry's comment about the royals being trapped got me to thinking. It's easy to judge them, but I've had to ask myself the question - would I have the courage like Harry to stand up against the "norm" and systems that have benefitted me especially if there was a significant consequence to me? I am not a rebel by nature and as a life-long people pleaser, my emotional-programming is to want people to like me. I also find that don't always know how to express myself and have difficult conversations in the moment. So - praying for clarity and courage when the time presents itself.
Couple of thoughts.
1st having seen his mom go through this Harry should have known better, the House of Windsor, with a 1000 years of tradition, is unbending and unchanging. Adapt or die.
Secondly the British press is unrelentingly cruel and mean, they were the very definition of click bait. Absolutely agree that Meghan was treated differently than Kate, but less to do with racism and much more to do with appealing to people's more baser instincts. Kate is very white, very pretty and people, especially women, love the romantic side of the marriage. Meghan, biracial and especially American, was the perfect foil, nothing personal they say. Robot Murdoch has perfected the formula, why do you think Fox news is so profitable. Well that and the fact it’s the only Conservative view on TV, but I digress.
In other words while racism did play a role, it was only a small role.